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Climbing the Value Chain of Personal Growth

November 06, 2023 Martin Perdomo "The Elite Strategist" Season 2 Episode 321
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Get ready for an enlightening chat with the dynamic Rahul Sharma, a powerhouse in leadership circles and a seasoned mentor with a wealth of experience. Rahul, with two decades of corporate America under his belt, unpacks the core tenets of personal development—having a mentor, readiness to climb the value chain, and the pursuit of consistent action. He enlightens us on how past triumphs can be beacons in navigating present trials, and why embracing imperfect action is the catalyst for progression when you're feeling stuck in a rut. 

In an enthralling second part, Rahul unlocks the transformative capabilities of positive thinking and personal growth. He shares techniques to nurture a buoyant mindset through gratitude, kindness, and resourcefulness. He also offers valuable tips on how to stay ahead by honing essential skills—positivity, adaptability, and relationship building. We also navigate the corridors of shifting your mindset through positive literature, enlightening conversations, and affirmative self-talk. Brace yourself for Rahul's practical methods to master your emotions and responses during tough times.

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Speaker 1:

Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of Latinos and Real Estate Investing Podcasts, and today's episode is with Mr Raul Sharma. Raul Karan Sharma is a dynamic leader from India currently residing in Ashbury, virginia, with an MBA in Human Resources from Brune University and a master's degree in organizational development from Bowling Green State University. Raul has dedicated his life to building mindsets that achieve excellence. In his corporate role, he is entrusted with training and equipping leader team, while on personal development front, he inspires others to adopt positive mind talk conversations, man don't. I love that. Raul firmly believes that anything is possible with grit, determination and perseverance and, with over 20 years of experience in corporate America, he's proven that his transformational abilities are unparalleled. Raul, sir, thank you so much. It's my pleasure honor to have you on this podcast. Thank you for being here today, my friend.

Speaker 2:

Thank you. Thank you for having me here. It's my pleasure. I just love what you do, my friend. You're a mindset strategist and then you help people to realize their dream. It's something that we have in common. Excited to be here to be part of your show.

Speaker 1:

Thank you, sir, thank you, thank you. Thank you so much for that. I want to get right into it. I want to do a really cool role in corporate America which is training and equipping leadership teams with personal development front, inspiring and adopting a positive mind. Talk conversations, man. I want to talk about that because that's I'm all about that. First of all, I'm going to get into that in a minute, but tell us how you first, how you got started in that role. How does one do what you do? How does one become a professional at what you do?

Speaker 2:

Definitely. It's not something that happened overnight. It has come up with a lot of preparation and it was I believe it was in my destiny to come into this learning and development role. In my role, one of the passion that I realized for mine was helping others getting subsets, and I was getting that adrenaline rush when I used to see someone moving up in the value chain or someone succeeding in their way of life. That really had that profound impact and that's when I started. I thought that I need to go and give back to society and try to support the individuals who are currently stuck or currently have no direction and I can provide some ray of hope, ray of light and some positivity to them so that they can take action.

Speaker 1:

I love that let's talk about. You said keyword right. A lot of people in our culture right now are feeling stuck right. There's a lot of people with inflation where it is and I'm going to bring economics and some of those things Inflation where it is, divorce rates where they are, the division of where our country is right now with a lot of these laws and a lot of these things and they feel stuck in a lot of ways. They feel stuck because inflation is so high and they're not keeping up with their money is not taking them as far as they used to take them.

Speaker 2:

So that's a great question and I see that many of us have been in that situation once in a lifetime, or maybe a couple of times in our lifetime. I have been to that earlier as well. There are three things I would suggest to the listeners who are at the top. Number one they need to have a mentor in their life, a coach in their life who is able to give them direction, as well as who has full trust in the abilities of the person. So we need to have that individual in our life and, as you mentioned earlier that they need to listen to your podcast, maybe you could be one of the mentor or coach or people like you who have done it all. So that would be my first advice. Number two I would say it is we need to prepare ourselves to knif up in the value chain. Things will not happen overnight and, as you mentioned in the question, a lot of people think that, okay, no one is listening to me, no one is understanding me. We don't need to have that blame to others. We ourselves are responsible for our destiny. We ourselves are responsible for our own success. So we need to take action and for us to give that direction. What action to be taken. That's where that coach or mentor will play a vital role. So have a mentor, be prepared for the next steps and take consistent action. Don't have a pessimistic approach In taking action. One of the comment I would make is which I have done mistake is I was always looking for the perfect action, or I need to make it perfect. Make it perfect and you know what. There is no such thing, in my opinion, like perfection. It's always a perspective. Maybe it's a perfect from your angle, maybe it's not perfect from someone's aspect. So my request would be to take continuous imperfect action. What do you think about my mentor? Prepare yourself and take continuous imperfect action to move out of the situation that you are in. I love that.

Speaker 1:

Mentor, coach, and I'm constantly saying that here you've got to find someone it's so important on who you are listening to, Like, that is, who you're surrounding yourself with your friends, who's in your ears, what information you're getting in your ears that is so important to your success, which you just said mentor. Find a mentor, find a coach. Prepare to move up in the value chain. I want you to unpack that a little bit more.

Speaker 2:

So, before I go specifically on preparation, I would want our listeners, who are stuck in their lives today, to think of a similar situation that has happened with them in the past and how they have overcome that situation. If this is their first time, this may not be relevant, but if it is something that has happened with them in the past, they need to think about okay, what did they do to overcome to that situation? That will give them that comfort, feeling that okay, I got this, I can get out of here. That is the number one. But if you are on the fence where it is the first time, think about a situation that you have mastered it. In our life there are many things that we have mastered. The master of the art it could be cycling or running, or maybe cooking or driving. How it happened? It did not happen overnight. You practiced a lot. You prepared yourself to become explored in that particular field. Maybe you are doing carpentering or maybe drawing or whatever it is. It is over a period of time. So preparedness I mean is practice. You need to practice practice till it becomes progressives. The other thing sometimes we feel that if I don't have a solution, no one else in the world has a solution. That is the mindset I would want people to change. Every problem, in my opinion, has a solution. You may not have that solution, someone else will. So you need to surround yourself with people with positivity. Your inner circle has to be so supportive, so helpful, that they can guide you and give you the direction and give you that motivation to help you out from that situation. So preparedness is more about practice, martin, and preparedness is about finding people who can give you a solution. You may not have a solution, but you may find people who may have a solution. So that is what I mean by got it.

Speaker 1:

That's a really good, really really good answer. What do you tell people? How do you change your circle? Because that was always a big question for me, for investors. I have an answer for investors, but let's just say you're not an investor. Let's just say, man, I just want more, I want me personally. I'm at a point in my life, raul, that I just want less people in my inner circle. But I want higher quality people in my inner circle, and what I mean by that is I want to have friends that can come to my house so we can sit in our backyard, we can barbecue, we can hang out and I could just take my shoes off and talk about anything with them.

Speaker 2:

Right. So, as you initially mentioned about these people specific class of people they have low means, less means to do things. The first thing I would it does not require any money is about the changing the mindset, having that positive mindset. Now, how you can inculcate positive mindset? There are a couple of things I would recommend. Number one would be start practicing gratitude. Don't think about things that you don't have. Be thankful to Almighty for the things that you are your friends, your family, the surroundings, the people around you. You don't have any control on the thoughts of other people. You have no control about what action the other person will take, but you have every control in your own thoughts and the action that you will take. Once you start practicing gratitude, you will start valuing the value of life. Number two I would suggest is be someone who is a resourceful person. Help others. There is a sense of gratitude that you will get when you help others. It is so helpful, it is so beneficial. You give and the giver will be coming to you. You would be given. That is one phrase I have heard. You give, you will be given. So try to inculcate that habit in you, where you are always working as a resource you are focusing on giving, giving help to others, practice kindness. And the other thing I would say is we need to prepare ourselves model with those life skills which are future proof, which are proof of recession no matter what economic conditions are, you are safe. Those future proof skills, in my opinion, are positivity, positive mindset, your adaptability, your critical thinking, your ability to build relationship, ability to do networking. These are some of the skills which are which, no matter which economic condition you are coming from, whether of your society or a country, these conditions will be helpful. And just to piggyback on how they can start, number one, social media. Maybe, let's say they don't have means of social media. Maybe they can follow the ethnic group or their religious group. Just find one person who is that ray of hope, who is that positive person, and that will be a ripple effect. All this thing first, we have to consciously work to change our mindset.

Speaker 1:

Okay, that's great. So what can one person do to start working to change their mindset, right? Is there something that you would recommend to someone that they could do daily? There's something here in your intro that I read which was about personal self-talk or something like that. I mentioned Mind talk. Yes, I love that, right? What can you recommend to someone they can do who like start shifting that mindset? Because, you know, maybe someone's 30, 20 years old, 25 year old, 40 year old, right? 50 year old, 60 year old, 70 year old listening to our podcast and they've had these negative thoughts for years.

Speaker 2:

So, as you rightly mentioned about the negative thoughts, as a human being, we get close to 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts in a 24 hour period. That is the research. The unfortunate part is that 90% of those thoughts are negative and we have to take conscious effort in converting those negative thoughts to positive. So few things that we can do is read to positive literature. Talk to positive people and let's say those people are not around you. Quarantine yourself from those people who are giving negativity, who are sucking the positivity from quarantine yourself. Number two is, since 90% of thoughts are negative, we need to inject positivity in our thoughts by talking positive to our mind. That positive mind talk will have an ability to distinguish our success and failure, and in my world, I have been teaching positive mind talk over years. My kids are now becoming of my guinea pig. They are learning and they are experimenting it, and positive mind talk is telling yourself about things that you want to do. So I will give an example, more than years, so that people understand better. And this is an example of my son. This winter he was part of basketball team and we were just going to bed. I just snubbed him and said goodnight and he said wait a minute. And he said, okay, I waited. Then I asked what happened. I was doing positive mind talk. I said really, what are you talking about? I told to my mind that I want to be better in my game tomorrow than the last week and then I said what do you mean? How do you want to do it? That last game I was not able to score. I was only able to assist. In tomorrow's game I want to impact this score positively. I want to score a basket, minimum one basket, and he's a nine-year-old in the fourth grade and next day he scored a basket. Now I am correlating it. Not that there is a correlation, but what I said that when you think positive thing in your mind, god helps you in bringing that positivity closer to you. If you are thinking negative, negative things will come to our mind, because it is our mind that propels us to take action. So if you're thinking negative, negative action will come out. If you're thinking positive, positive action, so think positively. Do that mind talk conversation and the mind talk. Martin, one thing I will tell you based on my experience the people who do and a lot of people use the self talk. So they who self talk or mind talk. They use the word I in the conversation, which is why am I upset? Why is this happening to me? We use this word I or me. My request and suggestion would be insert your name instead of I or me. Why is Rahul upset? Why is Rahul so negative? Or why is Rahul so angry? What happens when we use our name? And this is according to the research. It allows us to take a better control of our emotions, our feelings and action, specifically in a challenging time, because if the things are negative around us, you're all thinking negative and the negative thought process is making us take negative action. So inculcate this habit of positive mind talk. Use your own name instead of using the word I or me, and feel the difference. I have seen the difference in many and I'm very confident you will also see the difference.

Speaker 1:

That's really good. I did it right now, as you were saying it. I was literally like, as you're saying it, I'm playing it in my head, okay, so why is Martin Perdomo, you know, mad about whatever right? And what it did for me? I literally just did it myself as we're having this conversation, and what it did for me is that it allowed me to look at this at myself as a third party and allowed me to be more logical. That's what it did for me instantly, and I'm just saying this is just as you were. Having this conversation allowed me to look at the situation logically, as a third party, versus emotionally in the movie, if that really sets. Yeah, I do a lot of that at times with when I'm trying to figure out a problem. I don't do exactly that and it's interesting because you just gave me a name for it but sometimes I'll sit in my, in my, in my, in my desk at home when I'm journaling and I'll think of, okay, I have this problem here with this property or this situation and I have to figure it out, and what I do is I would like I don't know. I go into the state when I look at the problem from an outside, so I no longer, and Martin in the problem. I look at it kind of like a chessboard. Hmm, I kind of look at it like a chessboard and I say, okay, so if this is the problem, what should be? What should be the next move to get to fastest to the solution and to Overcome this problem? So it's kind of a strategy that I personally use when I'm kind of trying to figure out a problem and it's a mental thing. I do it and it's like it's weird because I get in this zone and I sit back on my chair and I Kind of see the problem and then I kind of see it like from above and I see like what needs to happen for all of this to work out. And it's favorite for me and it just that just occurred to me. As you were saying, you use your name and it gave me that same feeling of that third party Logically and took takes out the emotion. And I don't know if that's your experience or that's what it's supposed to do, but that was my experience just now is like this yes.

Speaker 2:

So that is what research showed, as I was telling you earlier, that it allowed us to Distinguish between our own emotion. It allows to take more rational Thinking about our feelings, emotions and the way we will be taking action. Otherwise, we may take decisions which are irrational, and that is another thing. I would comment, martin on this is, let's say, if we want to quit on something, quit on any product, wait on any of the aspects. My recommendation would be Never, ever, quit on a bad day. If you want to quit on anything, always quit on a. And you're on a good day, when you're keeping your head head high, you will not regret your decision. That is a very big and on learning that I had, it's very good ways. Yeah, and then we are Mad at things. When we are not in a good mindset, good frame of mind, we may take action which we will regret for life. Yeah so don't take action or don't quit on things when you are not in a right Mindset, not in a frame of mind.

Speaker 1:

I want to ask you this final question before we wrap it up, and that is you mentioned earlier that 90% of 60 to 80,000 of our thoughts are negative. I, I, I, I.

Speaker 2:

I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I. We are talking to someone. There is a lot of negative connotation, negative words that are being used and it is Not deliberately. Sometime it is more subquantiously. So what our mind is getting is on negative, negative, negative, negative, negative, and that is when we start thinking about things negative. So, for example, there's a different example. Let's say, when you are having your meal and if you want to have a dessert, the research shows that if you wait for 45 minutes Before you start thinking on your dessert, the likelihood of you not eating the dessert increases by close to 80%. But think about it. What happens when we go to a restaurant Before our meal is finished? The server will come. Please look at our dessert winning. Whether you are thinking about having a dessert or not, it is coming to you right in front of you. So where I am going at is when we are seeing and observing a lot of negativity. That is the reason why our mind is thinking negative. So we have to take subconsciously in our mind, effort to think positive, to use our words, more positive words. I think there is a game where you cannot use a word. No, there is a kids game we have tried to see if, in a day, how many words are you using which are also negative connotation. Start changing those negative words to positive and you will see some positivity.

Speaker 1:

Thank you so much, raul, for coming on and sharing all of your wisdom and insight with myself and the audience. Really, I am proud of you. We are about to go into the Untitled Round, where we are going to ask you a series of questions. You don't have to think, you don't have to justify it, you don't want to. And if you do, are you ready to play, sir?

Speaker 2:

Yes, yes, martin, thank you for having me on the show and I am excited for this next segment.

Speaker 1:

Mindset is a process. Never underestimate the power of your own selves. I highly recommend people should read extreme ownership. I've always wanted to travel to Mexico. My advice to young people is believe in themselves. Family or business, family skill set or mindset Mindset. Wine or beer, wine book smart or street smart, street smart. Self care or self love, self love, more time or more money, more time, success or happiness, happiness and, lastly, trump or Biden.

Speaker 2:

I don't have any answer there, my friend.

Speaker 1:

Thank you again, sir, for coming on and being so gracious with your time and your wisdom and your insights. If people wanted to connect with you, how do they find you? Where can they connect with you? How can they learn from you? If they wanted to bring you on, maybe as a coach or something like that, where would they start to connect with?

Speaker 2:

Yes, they can find me on Google. They just search on my book Habits for Miraclescom, they can find the credentials. They can also find me on LinkedIn and if they want to seek assistance, I'm always able to provide some help, some guidance, and would be excited to connect with our listeners.

Speaker 1:

Thank you, so much, sir. I really appreciate you coming on and sharing with us. We'll see you soon. Thank you everybody. Bye-bye.

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